Throughout the course of our lives we meet people we just sorta “click with.” Whether your friendship began based on a common interest or a mutual friend, our friends can develop into people who become just as or even more important to us than our family. But there are times within our friendships when, for one reason or another, things turn sour (to put it nicely). The person we grew to love and adore has now become someone who is just not good for us. Maybe you have progressed and they have stayed the same. Or maybe time has revealed their true colors, you know, the ones you didn’t notice at first. A few questions come to mind when talking about toxic friends. 1) How do you know if you have a toxic friend? 2) How do toxic friendships effect your life? and 3) What is the best way to rid toxic people from your life?
1) How do you know if you have a toxic friend?
Toxic people literally drain the life out of you. You can be in a good mood, but talk or hang out with a toxic person and your good mood soon fades. Characteristics that usually define toxic people are negative, self-centered, and jealousy. Friendship should be about making each other better, not worse. If someone in your life is not helping you to become a better you, find people who will.
2) How do toxic friendships effect your life?
Toxic people tend to add a lot of stress and drama to your life. Have you ever had a friend who is so full or drama that when they tell you their drama YOU feel stressed? For your well-being, you need to do everything in your power to keep stress and drama as far away from you as possible.
3) What is the best way to rid toxic people from your life?
Most of us don’t have the heart to tell someone to their face that they are a horrible person and you never want to talk to them again. The best way to approach a conversation with a toxic friend, is through a heartfelt explanation of how their actions have negatively effected your friendship. They may or may not take it well, but at least you will know that you did what was best for you.
Lastly, I love this quote I found on Pinterest. It really made me think about the people I spend the most time with and I hope it will do the same for you. If there is anyone in your circle that you don’t want to become like, consider politely removing them.